The Happiness Wisdom 


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Stephen Lau

Americans report that they are not very happy in their day-to-day life and living; evidently, something is missing for most Americans. One of the objectives of this book is to address this issue of unhappiness that may have an impact on their overall health and well-being.

Another objective of this book is to help people develop their own recipes for happiness through looking at ancient wisdom from the East and the West, conventional wisdom, and spiritual wisdom.

THE HAPPINESS WISDOM is a 161-page book:

All about . . . .

Unhappiness is no respecter of persons, whether you are rich or poor, young or old, wise or unwise.

The continuous quest for happiness is elusive and evasive, just like chasing the wind, unless wisdom is present.

Avoiding unhappiness is self-delusional, an unrealistic approach to attaining happiness.

Happiness and pleasure are life experiences to be enjoyed, cherished, and remembered -- but they do not last forever.

Happiness and unhappiness are only a state of mind-a uniquely subjective perception of an individual.

Happiness is contentment and satisfaction: contentment from getting all the basic needs, and satisfaction from getting some of the wants in life. Therefore, knowing the needs and the wants is important.

Unhappiness is only a personal perception that life is not really what it should be to that individual.

Any new life experience -- perceived through the five senses and then processed by the thinking mind, with attitudes and prejudices, as well as with beliefs and emotions, formed from past life experiences -- now become the new “reality” and just another new “thought” for the thinking mind.

You think and you become what you think, and that is your reality, which is often distorted and unreal, except in your own thinking mind.

Therefore, be aware of the presence of your subconscious mind, which is often making decisions for you and on behalf of you. Be wise, and don’t let your subconscious mind control your conscious mind.

Your life experiences are real to you; how you perceive and process them may positively or negatively affect how you live your life. Because they are stored in your subconscious mind, they may give you valuable life lessons, making you happy, or create delusions and self-deceptions that may not only confuse you but also lead you astray, making you unhappy. Get the wisdom to separate the truths from the half truths or the myths.

Wisdom is asking self-intuitive questions about whatever you experience in life, probing into the truths of all the so-called  "realities" perceived by your mind. Enlightenment is asking no more questions, because you already have got all the answers.

Wisdom is knowing who you really are, what you need and want, and how to confront your life changes and challenges. Wisdom lets you fully grasp the meaning and the source of happiness and unhappiness.

Ancient wisdom from East and the West shows you happiness comes from human effort, virtuous action, a balanced life with justice and rationality. Human happiness always has a relationship with the human soul.

Conventional wisdom creates the “normality” mindset of assumptions and attitudes that doing certain things will make you happy, making you only less self-reliant and more dependent on others for your own happiness.

People cannot make you happy, unless they consciously choose to do so.

To be truly happy, you must think outside the bounds of conventional wisdom. You must have an empty mindset not just to think out of the box of conventional thinking, but also to create your own box of beliefs and thinking.

Spirituality is a personal relationship with God through self-awareness, and a deep longing for the soul alignment with the Creator. It requires quality time, deliberate effort, and right doing, including love and compassion for others.

Everything that happens in your life is about YOU, and not about someone else. So, only YOU can create your own happiness recipe. 

Happiness is about doing -- doing things to yourself as well as to others, based on the five major ingredients: love, forgiveness, gratitude, compassion, and letting go.

In addition to choosing the ingredients, you should know the methods of applying those ingredients to your recipe. There are basically only two: human wisdom, and spiritual wisdom.

Human wisdom shows you how to think: who you really are, not who you wish you were; how and why your perceptions may change the realities that ultimately affect your life choices and decisions, making you happy or unhappy. Happiness is no more and no less than perceptions by the human mind. Human wisdom is right thinking, leading to right doing to create the right happy life experiences.

Spiritual wisdom provides strength and guidance for right thinking by the human mind. Spiritual wisdom may not only transform but also enlighten you to become a better and happier individual.

The Outline of the Book . . . .

INTRODUCTION: The two objectives of the book: addressing human unhappiness; creating the individual's own happiness recipe.

ONE: The underlying causes of human unhappiness.

TWO: Understanding how the human mind perceives and processes experiences, and changing the thinking mind to change the "realities" responsible for happiness or unhappiness.

THREE: Distilling the ancient wisdom from the West (Socrates, Plato, Aristotle) and the ancient wisdom from the East (Confucius, Lao Tzu, Buddha) to get some happiness ingredients.

FOUR: Looking at the pros and cons of conventional wisdom and the science of happiness.

FIVE: Explaining the difficulties of spirituality in a secular world, and how human wisdom may be a pathway to attaining spiritual wisdom.

SIX: Creating your own happiness recipe from the happiness ingredients obtained through looking at many real-life examples of real people from the past and the present, demonstrating how and why they were happy or unhappy. 
The Complete TAO TE CHING in Plain English
by Stephen Lau

This book contains the 81 chapters of the translated text of the ancient Chinese classic on human wisdom, written by the Chinese sage Lao Tzu. It also explains in plain English the essentials of Tao wisdom, which is the wisdom of TAO TE CHING.

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Many are unhappy not because of what they have experienced throughout their life journeys, but because they don't have the human wisdom to perceive and process what they've experienced.

Happiness is a state of mind, due to the the perceptions of the human mind. Change your perceptions to change your so-called realities. Empower your mind with human wisdom -- ancient wisdom from the East and the West, conventional wisdom, and spiritual wisdom -- to think differently to have totally different perspectives of what may have made you happy or unhappy.

Looking at many examples of real people from all over the world may also enlighten you, and help you live as if everything is a miracle.

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“Experience is not what happens to you; it is what you do with what happens to you.” Aldous Huxley

“Just try to be happy. Unhappiness starts with wanting to be happier.” Sam Levenson

“for riches do not endure forever,
and a crown is not secure for all erations.” (Proverbs 27: 24)

“The art and science of asking questions is the source of all knowledge.” Thomas Berger

“The reason man may become the master of his own destiny is because he has the power to influence his own subconscious mind.” Napoleon Hill